Category: Relating

  • The intimacy of clothes

    The intimacy of clothes

    I keep writing about clothes, because I find clothing to be very intimate. Here’s why. You’ve probably heard the phrase ‘women supporting women’. When I heard it the first time, it referred to how clothing connects people. It referred to how garment workers and people wearing clothes support each other. The phrase is about women,…

  • An update on radical honesty

    An update on radical honesty

    My homepage says that I practice becoming more radically honest. You may wonder what the heck I mean by that. Am I just walking around bluntly telling people what I think of them? The answer is no, not quite! But I am practicing being more honest indeed and to do so in ways that work…

  • Space invader #1: the first insights

    Space invader #1: the first insights

    Until recently I had never considered ‘taking up space’ as a thing. Since I do, I have started to see it in everything. I have found it to be an incredibly useful concept in my personal development! Here I will share my story, including the first new insights and developments. Throughout my youth I seem…

  • Spirituality meets polyamory, and they fall in love

    Spirituality meets polyamory, and they fall in love

    My previous writings about polyamory resulted in me getting quite some comments and questions from friends along the lines of ‘this is all nice and good, but aren’t you just perfectly monogamous?’ Well, I may as well am, but this depends on how you see. My first post about the topic was intended to grow…

  • Walking the Talk of Vulnerability: exposing the personal blog

    Walking the Talk of Vulnerability: exposing the personal blog

    From the start of my already long-stretched blogging career I’ve been facing the same dilemma: to tell or not to tell my family and friends about it. You’d think writers want to be read, but there is a case for anonymity and sharing only with those close friends you know to appreciate your style, your…

  • The many ways of Love – and how to do it

    My most-recommended book of 2015: The Ethical Slut, a book about shaping and sizing relationships according to your wishes in an ethical and sustainable way. You may not expect it from the title, but The Ethical Slut (TES)  is a really smart book! I learned a lot from it and I’m going to tell you…

  • Post Secret community art project

    Post Secret community art project

    This post is about a really cool community art project: Post Secret, for which people mail in their secrets anonymously on one side of a postcard. The invitation: This results in enormously impressive honesty on insecurities and vulnerability. It gives insight in so many different forms of conflict and trouble in human nature, in relationships,…

  • Connecting through Insecurities

    As I was deciding on something important to write about, the What I Be Project popped up. What I Be (WIB) is a project of photographer Steve Rosenfield, for which he takes portraits of persons with their greatest insecurities written on them for everyone to read. Every person thus picture also comes with a statement…