I keep writing about clothes, because I find clothing to be very intimate. Here's why. You've probably heard the phrase 'women supporting women'. When I heard it the first time, it referred to how clothing connects people. It referred to how garment workers and people wearing clothes support each other.…
My homepage says that I practice becoming more radically honest. You may wonder what the heck I mean by that. Am I just walking around bluntly telling people what I think of them? The answer is no, not quite! But I am practicing being more honest indeed and to do…
Until recently I had never considered 'taking up space' as a thing. Since I do, I have started to see it in everything. I have found it to be an incredibly useful concept in my personal development! Here I will share my story, including the first new insights and developments.…
My previous writings about polyamory resulted in me getting quite some comments and questions from friends along the lines of 'this is all nice and good, but aren't you just perfectly monogamous?' Well, I may as well am, but this depends on how you see. My first post about the…
From the start of my already long-stretched blogging career I've been facing the same dilemma: to tell or not to tell my family and friends about it. You'd think writers want to be read, but there is a case for anonymity and sharing only with those close friends you know…
My most-recommended book of 2015: The Ethical Slut, a book about shaping and sizing relationships according to your wishes in an ethical and sustainable way. You may not expect it from the title, but The Ethical Slut (TES) is a really smart book! I learned a lot from it and…
This post is about a really cool community art project: Post Secret, for which people mail in their secrets anonymously on one side of a postcard. The invitation: This results in enormously impressive honesty on insecurities and vulnerability. It gives insight in so many different forms of conflict and trouble…
As I was deciding on something important to write about, the What I Be Project popped up. What I Be (WIB) is a project of photographer Steve Rosenfield, for which he takes portraits of persons with their greatest insecurities written on them for everyone to read. Every person thus picture…