Sometimes I get to remember what I already have and how whole I already am. It’s easy to look at pretty pictures and shiny new items and to think that we may need any of that to feel complete. It’s easy to feel desire. But all these things are just our own feelings that belong to us and not to the items that are being sold.
I believe many people have a special relationship to clothes. It’s not just clothes, but there’s something special to that. And I think many people look for new clothes because they crave change, they want to re-invent themselves, they want to present themselves a little differently, to feel a little bit new, to pamper themselves. At least I recognize those feelings myself.
But these feelings and desires can make us look outside ourselves and overlook what happens inside of us and close to us. These desires may make us overlook that we already have a lot of clothes to love, in different shapes, patterns, colors and fabrics. Surely we can buy something new every now and then, and we even have to because clothes don’t last forever, but we shouldn’t resort to it too often, because our closets and our piles of clothing waste are too full and too big.
And you know, it’s a good thing to be able to see the beauty in things, in clothes, in the people that wear them. In different colors, different styles. It’s a good thing to be able to appreciate pretty pictures and the feelings they induce in you.
But we get to realize that these are our own feelings of love and appreciation. It’s our own ability to feel those feelings that we feel and that’s beautiful. And the feelings really have more to do with us than with the clothes we’re looking at. The clothes are just clothes, made by brands with marketing teams that want us to feel our feelings.
I got to realize that my love for clothing is love for shapes, colors, patterns, textures, love for feelings and expressions, love for people. It’s a love for life. And I don’t need all the clothes to feel fulfilled.
I love the colors that have been on trend for a few years, the yellow and brown colors, the deep green colors. And I love the variety of shapes and being able to love those helps me to love my body more. I love how I can wear different clothes and be comfortable doing so.
Yet I don’t need to own clothing in every beautiful color that exists, I don’t need to own clothing in every shape that exists, I don’t need to own all the patterns or textures to be able to appreciate them. I don’t need specific clothes to express myself, to feel my feelings, to experience and express my creativity and my way of being. I don’t need specific clothes to experience and express my love for life.
I can enjoy it all without having to collect it all. I can see the pretty things around me and feel the love. I can be it all without having to wear something specific. I can be all of me. I am all of me, always. I am complete. I don’t need all the clothes in the world. I just need some to dress myself.
And so do you. You can enjoy it all without having to collect it all. You can experience it all with your beautiful senses and sensibility. You can be all of you regardless of how you look exactly. You can be all of you, always. You are complete as you are. You don’t need specific clothes for that, you don’t need to wear clothes that are ‘on trend’. You just need some clothes to dress yourself so you can go about your day feeling all the feelings, being you.
We do get to buy something new every now and then, in a shape and color that we like. We get to browse through shops until we find the one item we truly want to wear. And then we get to continue our amazing lives and experience it all.
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